Today I’m going to tell you about my favourite self-help & personal growth books. I’m also going to talk you through them, why I’ve recommended them and what I’ve realised and learnt from them. I know there are hundreds of good self-help books available and I’m not here to put them in any kind of order, I only hope to inspire and help other people find some new reads and inspiration from books and podcast I like.
First, let’s talk about the books! I’ve read a couple of really good and interesting books, and I will continue to read more. These books I’m recommending are focused on self-confidence, loving yourself just the way you are and knowing that you’re worthy, worth of loving and belonging. One of the things I’ve dealt with over the years is a lack of confidence being around new people and specifically, speaking in front of them. So I’ve also included a book focused just on that.
Books for personal growth
‘You Are A Badass, How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life’ by Jen Sincero
The first self-help book I bought is, Jen Sincero’s: ‘You Are A Badass, How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life’. The main thing I finally and completely realised after I read this book was, how important it is really to love ourselves fiercely and be truthful to ourselves. That’s where everything starts, where everything ends and all the jam in between. The book makes a success of being very inspiring and informative, but at the same time also very funny!
After reading this book, so many new things started to make sense for me. It has helped me understand myself better, how things I disliked about myself are actually things I can do something about. How self-loathing will only make things worse, and you really need to choose that you want to change your life or parts of it. Everything starts from wanting it, choosing to do it and then actually doing it, which won’t be easy or nice, and you really need to take time and effort to do it, BUT it will be all so worth it in the end. The book includes some specific tasks and exercises to do and, if you do get the book, I highly recommend doing them all and trying all the tips and things is told in the book. Because they really work wonders!
The chapters are arranged in a very clear and clever way and also after the main text part there is step-by-step instructions to achieve the subject of the chapter. For example, how to clearly see who you are and what’s your calling, or tips for how to stop procrastinating. Actually, now after writing about the book, I feel like I want to read it again!
‘I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t) – Making The Journey From “What Will People Think?” to “I’m Enough”’ by Brene Brown
Next one is, Brene Brown’s: ‘I Thought It Was Just Me (But It Isn’t) – Making The Journey From “What Will People Think?” to “I’m Enough”’. The subject of this book isn’t easy- it’s shame and vulnerability. Regardless of that, this book has opened many doors for me to understand shame and how it works. Shame which controls us so much, and everyone could learn about it and be more aware the effects of it. Being vulnerable is the most courageous thing you can do, and at the same time it’s the key for living an authentic and joyful life and finding your way to feel less shame.
This book can be the way to freedom and high self-esteem. Everyone feels shame, there is no trick to never feel it again. But this book gives valuable tools for building your shame resilience, noticing your shame and treating it with love and kindness. I almost feel like this book has turned so many things around in my life. I won’t go to personal matters, but I will keep practising everything I learnt from this book. It has and will definitely continue to improve the way I think about myself – I love myself more now.
‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ by Dale Carnegie
The Last book I want to talk about is, Dale Carnegie’s: ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’. I know, the title of this book sounds very odd, and I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have bought this book if Zanna Van Dijk wouldn’t have recommended it in her Youtube video. I definitely haven’t mastered the skills covered in this book, but I’m working hard to get better. It will simply give practical advices and techniques to improve your conversation skills and become better speaker. It will also help you to learn to understand your conversation partner better and how to have more meaningful conversations. Appreciation, showing it and telling it out loud is so important, and it will always, in any context, work better than criticising and complaining. This was the best reminder from the book for me. I always want to be better and I used to criticise myself to get better results.
Podcasts for personal growth
Then, the podcasts. We’re all busy nowadays, and what would be more efficient than listening to some educating or inspiring content at the same time as driving a car or training at gym? Even if it’s your goal to get two things done once, I would recommend sometimes really relaxing and dedicating your time and thoughts for a podcast and maybe even taking notes about it.
“The school of Greatness” by Lewis Howes
Lately I’ve been loving, Lewis Howes’: “The school of Greatness”. He continues to have the most inspiring guests and spreads such important messages; motivating and inspiring people to thrive and follow their dreams. The topics on his podcasts are everything between building successful business to meditation and morning rituals. He talks about how to reach your full potential, how imperfect is perfect and, for example, how to become a Master of Finance. His podcasts normally take around one hour, though he also has short and sweet motivating audio clips that last around ten minutes. I love listening to one whilst taking our dog for a walk, it’s like my own time and I’ve started to look forward to these moments during my day! They always leave me feeling super motivated and inspired. I learn something new every time!
“Your Own Magic” by Allie Michelle and Raquelle Mantra
Next one I recommend is a bit more of a spiritual one. Two girls who live in Hawaii, Allie Michelle and Raquelle Mantra have such beautiful voices and listening to them is like meditation for me. They also have their own guided meditations series! Their podcast’s name is “Your Own Magic” and they talk about everything they’re inspired about. Mostly it’s about how to live a more meaningful life and sharing meditation tips and life skills. But also covers topics such as how to turn your tough times for your advantage and how to share your story and help other people with similar problems. They always have awesome guests and I keep learning something new all the time from this podcast!
Obviously, I can’t write a recommendation for podcasts without mentioning TED Talks. Thinkers, leaders, researchers all sharing their thoughts and results to the world without being scared of failing, or probably being little bit scared but doing it anyway. If that’s not inspiring I don’t know what is! It’s amazing how inspired you can feel after listening to somebody speaking about the subject they’re most passionate about. That’s really one of the most beautiful things in the world – somebody who has found their passion and gets to share it and work with it. If you listen to TED Talks, I guarantee you will get a better idea what’s happening around the world and of what people are discussing about at the moment regarding new ideas, thoughts and inventions.
A Couple of my favourite TED Talks ever are; Brene Brown’s: “Listening to shame” and “The Power of vulnerability”, and Adam Alter’s: “Why our screens make us less happy”.
I hope you will have great time reading and listening to my recommendations!
Noora is a health nut from Finland. She believes that balance is the key and hopes to inspire people find their own balance. She listens rap music and does yoga. Her uncontrolled laugh makes others laugh. She is overall wellness enthusiast who tries her best living sustainable lifestyle filled with kindness and dreaming big. Deep conversations, sweaty workouts, snowboarding, vegan chocolate and exploring the world gets her excited. Check out her Instagram @nooraeveliiina